“Saggin’ “

Saggin Pants

This was passed onto me by an old HS friend. While you have probably heard this story (the backwards spelling of the word), I have seen other than black men sporting what they call this “fad”.

The bottom line is….conduct and present yourself with some dignity…Black, White, Hispanic, Asian, Irish…WHATEVER!! Stop the ignorance.

The message is as follows….

Pass this on to Our Youth, Our Parents, Our (not only) Black Men and Women
Letter from a college student

The other day, a friend of mine visited me in the lobby of my dorm just to
chat while her laundry was drying. As we were chatting, two young freshmen came
by. One of the 2 boys wanted to ‘talk’ to my friend (as in date). She
asked him how old they were, and both of the boys replied 18. My friend and I
both laughed hysterically because we are both 22 years old. After my friend left, the young men were still hanging around and one wanted
to know how he could gain her interest.

The first thing I told him to do was to pull up his pants! He asked why, and
then said he liked saggin ‘ his pants. I told him to come over to my
computer and spell the word saggin’. Then I told him to write the word
saggin ‘ backwards.

S-A-G-G-I-N
N-I-G- G-A-S
I told him the origin of that look was from centuries ago. It was the intent
of slave owners to demoralize the field workers by forbidding them to wear a
belt as they worked in the fields or at any other rigorous job. In addition,
men in prison wore their pants low when they were “spoken for”. The
other reason their pants looked like that was they were not allowed to have
belts because prisoners were likely to try to commit suicide. And, saggin’
pants prevents you from running.

We as young Black people have to be the ones to effect change. We are dying.
The media has made a mockery of the Black American. Even our brothers and
sisters from Africa don’t take us seriously. Something as simple as pulling
up your pants and standing with your head held high could make the biggest
difference in the world’s perception of us. It is time to do right by
ourselves. We need to love and embrace each other. No one is going to do that
for us. It all comes down to perception. What people perceive is what reality to
them is. We have to change not only the media’s perception of us, but we
need to change our perception of ourselves.
Remember all eyes are on you Black Man. All eyes are on you Black Woman. All
eyes are on your Black Child. People point the finger at us and expect us to
engage in negative and illegal activities, to manifest loud, boisterous
behavior, to spend our hard earned money in their stores, buying goods we
don’t need, or really want. We have allowed not only the media, but the
government and the world to portray us as a ‘sub-culture. ‘ They have
stripped our culture down to the point where the image of Black people is
perpetuated as rappers, athletes, drug users, and consumers of junk food,
expensive tennis shoes, expensive cars, expensive TVs, cell phones and not
investing in homes for our families.

We are so much more!!!!!!!
To all our Black Men : It’s time to stand up. There are billions of
Black Women who want to do nothing more than worship the ground that you walk
on. We are so in love with your potential. We want to have your back, we want
to love, support20and cherish every ounce of your being. But with that you have
to show that you are willing to be the head of our households. You have to
prove yourselves worthy of our submission. We need you to be hard working…Not
a hustler. We need you to seek higher education, to seek spirituality. We need
you to stand! And trust us; we will have your back. We know that it gets hard.
We know you get weary. Trust and believe that there is nothing that a Black
Man and a Black Woman can’t handle with GOD on their side.

To all our Black Women : It is also time for you to stand up. It is time
for you to stop using our bodies as our primary form of communication. It is
time to be that virtuous woman that Proverbs spoke of. You cannot sit by the
wayside while our men are dying by the masses. You are the epitome of Black
Love. It starts within you. You need to speak with conviction to let not only
our Black Men know, but the world, that you are the Mothers of this world. You
are so powerful. You are so beautiful. You need to love and embrace every
blessing God has given us physically, emotionally and spiritually.

For all our Black Children : We need to love them. We need to teach them.
We need to stand up for them. We need to protect them. We need to show them
that there are no ‘get rich quick’ schemes. We need to tell them that
they WILL die trying if they submit to a life of crime and deceit. We need to
teach our children that no one will love them the way we can. And being a
basketball player, a rapper, or a drug dealer is not reality. It’s not
realistic and only a small percentage of people ever make it as a rapper or
professional athlete. We need to teach our children that we can be more than
rappers and athletes. We can be the owners of these sports teams. We can be
the CEO’s of OUR fortune 500 companies. We need to believe in literacy.

Please Keep This Going & Have a wonderful day

The Ten P’s of Prosperity – Number 3: Pen and Paper

Greetings readers. Here is the third “P” (or I should say “P”s from motivational speaker Jewel Diamond Taylor from her list of life-guiding principles.

Number 3: Pen and Paper: Thou shalt write down thy goals. Think it, then ink it. Be specific, have a target date, and review them often.

I’d like to add a phrase I often write at the top of my to-do list everyday: “Failing to plan means planning to fail, so plan the work, then work the plan.”

I tend to subscribe to this one regularly, but as you may guess, the key is executing the goals in the best way possible. Writing is only the beginning!

I hope these have been foundationally useful. Stay tuned for Number 4 soon….

peace,
F!

The Ten P’s of Prosperity – Number 2: Prepare and Plan

Good day….

As promised, from the series The Ten P’s of Prosperity, motivational speaker Jewel Diamond Taylor brings us yet another *jewel* of great advice and direction.

Here’s “P” number 2: Prepare and Plan

[ok, so technically there are two P’s, but u get the drift] 🙂

Thou shalt get organized, make necessary contacts, calls or calendar dates. Gather your materials and resources and get started today! Overcome the greatest enemies to your wealth and health” procrastination and laziness Procrastination is a thief

That other P-word, procrastination….I will be the first to raise my hand in concurrence regarding how much of a thief it is!

I hope you’re finding these life guidelines as helpful as I am

Stay tuned for “P” Number Three soon!

It’s all about positive flow…

peace,
F!

The Ten P’s of Prosperity – Number 1: People

Good morning. I hope this post finds you well and in good spirits. In going through some old magazines I wanted to discard, I came across an article that featured 10 basic rules for achievement, put together by motivational speaker and author Jewel Diamond Taylor (JewelMotivates@aol.com). Jewel took the model of the great 10 commandments and fashioned her tips accordingly. Starting today, I’ll post a different “P” for prosperity. I clipped the article and keep a copy in my planner as well as on my Blackberry. Follow them, and the 10 Commandments and chart big successes!

Here’s “P” number one: People

Thou shalt surround thyself with positive, caring, supportive, networking, productive, and like-minded people. Success is contagious!

Stay tuned for “P” Number Two soon!

It’s all about positive flow…

peace,
F!

2009 SUMMER PROGRAMS FOR HIGH SCHOOL STUDENTS

Valuable (and often untapped) scholarship and program information for our youth. Please circulate. Remember they are the future!

2009 SUMMER PROGRAMS FOR HIGH SCHOOL STUDENTS

FREE!! MIT announces its MITES Program, (Minority
Introduction to Engineering and Science), a challenging 6
week summer program that prepares promising rising seniors
for careers in engineering and science. If you are selected,
all educational, housing, meals and activity costs are
covered. You must, however, pay for your own transportation
to and from MIT. To apply, go to http://mit.edu/mites/www

GEORGE WASHINGTON UNIVERSITY Science & Engineering
Apprenticeship program (summer) – This program places
academically talented H.S. students (at least 16 yrs old,
sophomores/ juniors) with interest in science & math in
Dept. of Defense laboratories for an 8-wk period over the
summer. This is an invaluable experience in the world of
scientific research, with hands-on exposure to scientific
& engineering practices not available in the HS
environment. It is a paid apprenticeship ($2,000) and the
students are assigned a scientist or engineer as their
mentor. To apply online or get more information about the
program: http://www.usaeop.com. Students must submit their
transcript (minimum GPA 3.0) and teacher recommendation to
the program director for consideration and daily
transportation is the student’s responsibility. Program
runs from June 22 – August 14, 2009.

FREE!! Princeton University announces its Summer Journalism
Program for low-income sophomores or juniors with at least a
3.5 GPA (on a 4.0 scale) who have an interest in journalism.
The cost is free including travel costs to and from
Princeton! Apply now! Go to www.princeton..edu/sjp

FREE!! The National Center for Health Marketing’s
Global Health Odyssey Museum is pleased to offer the 2009
CDC Disease Detective Camp (DDC). DDC is an academic day
camp for students who will be high school juniors and
seniors during the 2009-2010 school year. Campers will take
on the roles of disease detectives and learn how CDC
safeguards the nation’s health. The camp will be offered
twice from June 22-26 and July 13-17. For more info and to
apply to go www.cdc.gov/gcc/exhibit/camp.htm.

FREE!! The American Legion sponsors a week-long summer
leadership program called Boys State. This year’s
program will be held at McDaniel College in Westminster,
Maryland from June 21-27. If you are a junior interested in
a leadership opportunity see your guidance counselor right
away for more information.

The Leadership Center at Morehouse College presents the
2009 Coca-Cola Pre-College Leadership Program. There are 2
programs, one for male students completing their sophomore
or junior year, and the other for male students completing
their senior year. Applicants must have a minimum 3.0 GPA
(on a 4.0 scale). The curriculum focuses on personal and
interpersonal leadership skills. The program runs from June
20 to June 26. The cost is $400.00. To apply, go to
www.morehouse.edu. Application access is listed under
“Events at the Leadership Center.”

NASA sponsors the National Space Club Scholars Program, a 6
week summer internship at NASA’s Goddard Space Flight
Center. It is open to students who will be 16 years old and
have completed the 10th grade by June 2009, have
demonstrated high academic success, and have an interest in
space science or engineering as a career. Applicants must be
U.S. citizens. Applications are available in the Career
Center or online at
www.education.gsfc.nasa.gov/pages/placement.html Apply now!

University of Maryland, College Park: Women in Engineering,
E2@UMD, July 12-18 or July 19-25; rising juniors and
seniors. Go to www.wie.umd.edu/precollege or call
301-405-3283

University of Maryland Young Scholars Program targets
rising juniors and seniors who have a strong academic record
and a desire to excel to experience college life while
earning three academic credits. 14 courses are offered for
three weeks from July 12 – 31, 2009. Visit
www.ysp.umd.edu/pr

CITY YEAR, WASHINGTON DC (AmeriCorps) – Graduating seniors
who are not sure what they want to do after high school
should consider applying for a paid community service
position with City Year, Washington, DC., a group of 17-24
year olds committed to full-time service for ten months in
the Washington, DC community. Benefits include: living
stipend ($200 per week), health care coverage, free metro
pass, and $4,725 educational scholarship. For more info:
www.cityyear.org or email: cmurphy@cityyear.org/dc or call:
202-776-7780, Amanda Seligman. Recruitment open houses will
be held once a month at their headquarters:20918 U Street,
NW, 2nd floor, Washington, DC 20001.

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Nursing Program/free tuition

If you know of anyone between 18-28 years old, interested
in the Nursing field, University of the District of Columbia
(UDC) is offering FREE tuition, FREE books, a $250 monthly
stipend, and guaranteed job placement as a nurse at
Providence Hospital upon graduation (it’s a 3 year
program) with a starting salary of $40,000.

The program is recruiting new students now!! Please contact

Ms. Bison Smith (202) 266-5481 or Email
Bsmith@urbanalliance.org < mailto:Bsmith@urbanalliance.org SEND TO SOMEONE WHETHER THEY CAN USE OR NOT. THEY JUST MIGHT KNOW SOMEONE WHO CAN! ________________________________________________________________ AFRICAN-AMERICAN STUDENTS ARE NOT APPLYING! Even if you do not have a college-aged child at home, please share this with someone who does. Though there are a number of companies and organizations that have donated monies for scholarships to be used by African-Americans, a great deal of the money is being returned because of a lack of interest. No one is going to knock on our doors and ask if we can use a scholarship. Take the initiative to get your children involved. There is no need for money to be returned to donating companies because we fail to apply for it. Please pass this information on to family members, nieces, nephews, friends with children etc. We must get the word out that money is available. If you are a college student or getting ready to become one, you probably already know how useful additional money can be. Our youth really could use these scholarships. Thanks! (If clicking on the link doesn't work, copy and paste the URL in your web browser.) 1) BELL LABS FELLOWSHIPS FOR UNDER REPRESENTED MINORITIES http://www.bell-labs.com/fellowships/CRFP/info.html 2) Student Inventors Scholarships http://www.invent.org/collegiate http://www.invent.org/collegiate/ 3) Student Video Scholarships http://www.christophers.org/vidcon2k.html 4) ! 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Reducing Stressssssssssssssssssssssss….

1. Start the day right. Save all that frantic wasted time used in the morning to prepare for the day. Spend the night before preparing for the next day.
2. Declutter your space. It takes energy to keep possessions in working order or dusted. Get rid of the stuff that’s broken or missing a part.
3. Learn to say “no.” Don’t overload your schedule with more tasks, more jobs, more volunteer time. It’s OK to say no.
4. Turn off the TV. We waste too much time sitting in front of the TV. Curb how many hours the TV is on. And before you pick up the remote control, ask yourself if there are activities to share with the family, or entertainment, like a museum visit or play, that you’ve been putting off.
5. Commit to number one. When the demands of work, parenthood, or household chores get you down, it’s time to schedule a date with yourself. Whether it’s every Sunday night or 20 minutes each morning, the important thing is to make a plan and stick to it.
6. Find a sanctuary. Escape to a place to enjoy peaceful solitude.
7. Be spontaneous. Spontaneity is key to feeling like you’re in control of your own destiny. Every once in a while, a change in routine can spark your spirits and your energy.
8. Live beneath your means. Did you know that 80% of America’s self-made millionaires are frugal? If you want to achieve economic independence, try buying only what you can afford, not what you think you need. See how long you can go without cashing a check, charging on credit, or buying anything. You’ll be amazed how ingenious and inventive you can be.
9. Rewrite the course of your day. When the newspaper’s horoscope doesn’t tell you what you want to hear, write your own, using words that make you feel great. Or start jotting down phrases you like on slips of paper, put them in a box, and pick as many as you need to start the day.
10. Listen to your body. You know what your biological clock prefers. Indulge it and watch your productivity grow
Realistic? I think so….what about u?

peace (literally),
F!

Universal

Your life right now is the result of the things you have done up until this point in time. If you want your life to be different, you will need to make changes.
Wishing for a better life won’t make it so. In order for “things” to change, you must be willing to change. That means getting out of your comfort zone. It means facing your fears. It means you may need to change your career, your friends, the food you eat, the clothes you wear, where you live, your daily schedule.
You are remarkably adaptable. If you’ve made it this far, you have already gone through many major changes in all aspects of your life. From being an infant to a toddler to a child to a teen to an adult, the first few years of your life were filled with constant change. You are certainly up to the task.
Almost always, the fear of change, the fear of the unknown, is worse than the change itself. Once you understand this, then you realize that it is easier to change than to resist change.
There are things you need to do, changes you need to make. Go ahead with them. Don’t waste your energy fearing them or resisting them. Dive right in and do what needs to be done. Change is a constant part of life. When you fear it, it will happen anyway, out of your control. When you embrace change, it will enable you to reach your goals.
-Ralph Marston –

Ten Ways To Stay Grounded In a Busy World

This post I can’t take credit for, and I can’t quite recall the original source, but it speaks great truths to me. I often partake it some of the advice but hope to increase in those areas where I don’t. I hope you find it useful.

Ten Ways To Stay Grounded In a Busy World

1. Live simply and live deliberately. By choosing not to get caught up in the details of this fast-paced world, you are doing your part to slow down the . You will also discover that you have more time to enjoy being alive.†

2. Stay in touch with yourself. Soul searching, meditation, and journaling are just a few of the many activities you can take part in to stay aware and learn as much as you can about your emotions, reactions, likes, dislikes, dreams, and fears. Having a solid sense of self gives you a firm foundation for living in this world.†

3. Support or teach others as often as you can. This can help you form connections with people while also giving you an opportunity to make the world a better place.†

4. Consciously choose what you will allow into your being. The media bombards us with visions of hate, war, and pain. Be judicious about what you read, watch, and listen to.†

5. Acknowledge the beauty that resides around you. Whether you live in a sprawling metropolis or a stereotypical suburb, there are natural and man-made wonders just waiting to be discovered by you.†

6. Nurture your ties to your tribe. If you donít have one, create a community that you can belong to. Modern life can be isolating. When you have a tribe, you have a circle that you are a part of. Its members ñ loved ones, friends, or neighbors – can be a source of support, caring, guidance, and companionship.†

7. See the larger picture. Remember that the way that you choose to live is not the only way to live. Widen your perspective by exploring other modes of being through research, travel, and discussion.†

8. Embrace the challenges that life presents to you, and challenge yourself often. After a time, even the most exciting jobs or lifestyles can seem routine. Never stop assimilating new knowledge about whatever you are doing, and your life will never seem dull.†

9. Move your body. In this busy world, it can be easy to live a sedentary life. Movement reacquaints us with our bodies and connects us to the earth in a visceral way. It also restores our vitality.†

10. Make time for stillness, silence, and solitude. The world can be noisy, and we are subject to all kinds of noises nearly every waking hour. We are also often “on the go” and unable to relax. Being alone in a peaceful place and making time for quiet can help you stay in touch with yourself.

peace…
F!

Time Management – The Elusive Continuum

It’s about 11:05 am on the night of the Presidential Inauguration. I took off from work today to take in the events and festivities from home. It was a very good day, historic to say the least. I’m determined to be in bed not to long from now, but wanted to finally get around to completing this post. The topic is one I thought of doing for some time, but have been only mildly energized to do so…until now…mainly due to a question posed to me from a follower on Twitter. One day last week, he posed this question to me:

How do you balance a real job and music career? I’m supposed to audition Tuesday and am thinking of bagging it due to no time!

That question…is one I constantly ask myself as time goes by. I often wonder, simultaneously, get the things done I do…and at the same time, fail to get things done as well (strange huh?). I have a to-do list to do everyday. I keep one because it is the only way I can ever get things done. There have been days where I havent accomplished a thing on that list (I’m sure I am not alone), but suffice it to say, I’m one of those people that can not operate without a daily to do list.

The music career my friend speaks of amounts my musical world – weekly podcaster (as u know), working on a CD project with my partner, playing in a band, being a musician for various music ministries in my church, writing my own material, doing recording session work for other artists as asked, and working on my own material for a future solo release. Add to that fatherhood, husbandhood, Parent/Teacher school board member and a demanding day job and….enuff said, huh?

There are many books written on time management none of which I read. I even wrote a paper on time management as my first ever assignment as a young engineer, my first job as an engineer in my mid-20s. My boss at the time was very impressed on the paper, as well as my presentation of it to my peers and suboardinates. So….(I laugh still), why does it seem so difficult to manage my time. For me, I’ve come to realize it has to do solely with steadfastness and habit, along with the continual dissipation of the sin I call procrastination (LOL). Procrastination is a thorn I have not yet withdrawn from my side, but glad to say I am making strides to realize it’s removal. Since I have always, and still do, enjoy my solitude, gaining it on the regular (even a lil bit), has become incentive to get done what I set to every day. I’ve learned to adopt the mindset try and stick to a to-do list as best as I can…the realization of crossing things of that list regularly is also incentive. Another important aspect is to truly prioritize items. I try to forecast larger things that need to be done, and break them down into smaller items to manage easier. Basically, that is the approach I take to best manage the time I have. It’s been said that each of us get the same amount of time…24 hours in a day….sure doesn’t seem like it at times 🙂

In any event, to my Twitter friend, I hope that helps. Schedule/to-do list/steadfastness. I know that you desire to make time in your life for more creative pursuits. Try these few things I’ve mentioned, if you haven’t already and let me know if they work for you….maybe you can teach me some things along the way….I’m game!

peace…
Fresh!